“You are the ex-boyfriend, media!”
Less than a week ago I watched Ice Age 4 for the first time. [I am very aware that these are not chick-flicks, by the way. It’s an animated movie about mammoths, sloths and saber toothed tigers. I will defend the series’ hilarity until the end, though fabulous in doing so I am not.] Few movies can make me cry laughing: these succeed. And yet twice while watching Ice Age 4 I was really, really irritated. In fact, I turned, made eye contact with my Dad, and did something along the lines of this:
It wasn’t the story. Okay, it was, but it wasn’t the craft, the fact that Sid is still single (surprise!), or even the main characters. It was two minor characters who happen to be mammoths in literally two scenes. Girls mammoths who were decidedly…catty. The worst is when its an amusement.
The amusement comes from the fact that girls live in a world of subtext.
Pros: cool telepathy-like powers!
Cons: Understanding exactly how to manipulate people and situations!
Not everyone pulls on the strings. Some people do, because sometimes people are mean. One of the reasons I hated “Mean Girls” is that I’ve lived through that game. I hate the game. It’s literally a swirl of facades.
*deep breath and exhale* Okay, on to Taylor Swift (featured in a gif above the ‘pretty’ one saying something I support). My friend Rachel and I were Skyping last night, and got around to discussing the Taylor Swift controversy. In case you missed it, a basic recap: Taylor wrote a satirical song with a music video where she makes fun of herself and the media, particularly the media’s hype over her ‘continuous stream of boyfriends.’ Props to her, right? Well, the media sort of missed the point. Again. Like this:
The news did not feature the definition of satire, which is define as “the use of humor, irony, exaggeration, or ridicule to expose and criticize people’s stupidity or vices, particularly in the context of contemporary politics and other topical issues.”
Media facades are kind of annoying (read: A LOT I’M SURE). And in the music video, Taylor literally wears every guise that the media has plastered her with. Hence, in the video, the media (and all the stereotypes whirled around willy-nilly) are the ex-boyfriend. Satire, right?
Point being that people are not boxes. People are messy and frustrating and sometimes they hurt you a lot, and sometimes friendships are only for a season. People are not determined by their Myers-Briggs personality type, or their genes, or their shyness. People are not determined by how useful they are to you.
People are souls, souls where the only camera to capture a glimpse with is experience. Sometimes they tick you off, and sometimes they make you cry with wonder at what they see. Sometimes people are jerks. Sometimes people are so filled up with light that you just stop and stare. Some people you want to protect until the very end. There are the people you run to when you want to cry, and the people you choose to plant your feet beside no matter what. There is no “Mean Girl” gene. There may be a story, but not an excuse: just choices.